Everyparentwantsthegoldenkeytoraisingwell-behaved,academicallygifted,successful,happychildren.Embeddedinthecollectivepsycheisthenotionthatdisciplineisthecornerstonetoachievingthesegoals.OutofControloffersanever-before-publishedperspectiveonwhytheentirepremiseofdisciplineisflawed.Dr.ShefaliTsabaryrevealshowdisciplineisamajorcauseofgenerationsofdysfunction.Theauthorgoestotheheartoftheproblemsparentshavewithchildren,challengingsociety’sdependenceondiscipline,daringreaderstoletgooffear-basedideologiesandreplacethemwithanapproachthatdrawsparentandchildtogether.Thekeyisongoingmeaningfulconnectionbetweenparentandchild,freefromthreats,deprivation,punishment,andtimeouts--allformsofmanipulation.Parentslearnhowtoenterintodeepcommunionwiththeirchildren,understandingthereasonsforabehaviorandhowtobringoutthebestinthechild.Farfromalaissez-faire,anythinggoes,approach,thisishowachildlearnsresponsibilityandtakesownershipoftheirlife,equippedwithcharacterandresiliencethatflownaturallyfromwithin.
